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Recently, I was working with a client who was struggling with finding a relationship. I asked her, what are you good at? What area of your life is effortless? She told me that no matter what, she can always find an apartment or a place to live. It never occurred to her that she was good at this until she heard other people freaking out about having to get a place.

The other morning I was talking to a friend and we were sharing with each other what happened in our homes over the holidays. I found myself ranting about my son on how mean he has been to me. In this moment of the re-telling, I could feel my deep anger and hurt. I could also feel my rage at him. I realized I wanted to talk to him and give him a piece of my mind!

I have now been coaching for 16 years, and I have had a coach for myself for the past 16 years. In all of these years of being a coach, and receiving coaching, I have never actually written anything in my blog about WHY coaching? With the new year approaching, this seems like a good time to explore this topic.

As I sit down to write my last blog post of 2020, I am reflecting on the power of “not-knowing.” I think this is one of the most impactful ways of being I have experienced all year.‍Really, staying in not-knowing means not automatically filling in outcomes, not filling in why someone did something, not filling in who someone is, not deciding how something is going to turn out before it turns out.

I am shaking. Joe Biden has been elected as our country's next president.I wasn't aware how much Donald Trump impacted me. My body is shaking, letting go all of my defenses from an abusive man. I have been holding on to this feeling since I was a 14 year old when the Golf Pro drove me home and never dropped me off. I have been holding onto this feeling of being violated for 44 years. Somehow, Trump brought these feelings to the surface.

As you may be aware, coaches have coaches. We benefit from outside perspectives, additional resources, and compassionate support, just like our clients do. I seek mentors for my own personal development, and to continue to grow my awareness and capacities, in order to serve my clients better.