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I am noticing my head chiming in with all of these bright clever ideas. And I know not to listen to them. I know that these ideas are just more information. These ideas will fall into the cluttered junk drawer of our minds. I sit quietly, waiting for that moment of inspiration. Where I can feel the idea come to me and feel that spark. Nothing is coming. So this month, I am sharing nothing.

While I am working at my desk, I often look out the windows at my garden. I can see my white oakleaf hydrangea in one window and my blue hydrangea in the other.I often sit and stare at these plants. Recently, the white hydrangea has been covered in bees. Dozens of bees dance from leaf to leaf, landing gently on the white flower petals as the plant moves with the wind.

Clearing my clutter is one of my favorite things to do. I read the Book Clear Your Clutter with Feng Shui in 1998, and my life has never been the same. I remember reading that book on the way home from a vacation in Tahoe. I came home and immediately started throwing things out. I filled boxes and boxes with things that I then donated and gave away. With David moving in, it was time to take another stab at clearing out. 

And yes, often times it is important to make a change, quit a job that sucks, or leave a relationship or situation behind. But if you go about making changes when your mind is closed, it will only bring you further into misery in your career. You have to approach your current job and situation with an open mind, and life will lead you to where you need to be. The changes you desire to make will happen in a way that fulfills you and brings you joy, because you are approaching your life with joy and fulfillment. 

Recently I started working with a new client, an executive who hated her job.She came to me because she had come to realize that being miserable at her new job felt familiar. She’d felt this way at her two previous jobs as well. This time, rather than quitting again and looking for new work, she decided that it may not be the job that is the issue. She recognized that she was the common denominator. And so, she decided to do some internal work.

For so much of my life, it looked like other people had to be a certain way for me to be happy. It really looked like I was at the mercy of others’ feelings and emotions. Sometimes it still looks that way, but not as much. I am really beginning to see that I am not experiencing others’ emotions. I am experiencing my thinking about their emotions. Yes, I do feel other people's energy. But then, what I am feeling is actually the result of my thinking about their energy.